double standards

I was watching a sitcom the other day and it was the stereotypical scene of the Father in the living room on the couch and the Mother in the kitchen. I hear so often the comments that "It's my day off" or "I need some down time" as excuses while men watch TV or video games. I understand the need for some down time and I don't blame them for that, but I can't help but wonder: when is my day off? There is never a day off from dishes, or laundry or cooking. There is never a day off from children. I love my daughter and I am fine with cleaning, but sometimes it would be nice to have a break. Why is it that women spend their free time cleaning or cooking while men get to their spend their free time playing? And then when we finally get a few moments to get out of the house or spend time with a friend, women often feel like children who can only go out after making sure their chores are done. Even the greatest men who view their wives as equal are often subject to this double standard. Has anyone seen this in their own life or the lives of others? Is it okay? Any ideas on how we can remedy this?